Now that I am a wise, mature 45, I am a grown up. And I get to go to grown up parties. When we only had younger children, we self righteously proclaimed that we only went to family events that we could all go to. We had to all be together. About two seconds after we had teenagers capable of babysitting, we changed our tune. We were outta there.
Now we have weekly date nights to go grocery shopping together. I haven't convinced Kevin that it's a nice date, he still thinks grocery shopping is a pretty lame date. And every time we go, the eight year old complains that we just had a date last week. But I'm hangin' on to that food procurement event with my husband.
About twice a year someone in our circle of friends will throw a grown up party. It's not as if we do or say anything we wouldn't in front of the children, but it is lovely to finish a conversation without cleaning up a little kid spill or chasing a kid out of your friend's flowerbeds at a party. It's good to nurture our grown up friendships.
Of course, all dates and grown up parties include nursing babies!
Movies are a great way to reach people's hearts and help them understand difficult subjects. The many ways in which our culture breaks down natural law and ignores God's design for marriage and family are complex and heart rending. Tiger's Hope , produced by the talented Dr. Stan Williams, is a movie that will help us understand the ramifications of ignoring God's design.
From the Tiger's Hope blog: Through the power of story, this short movie will give an accurate
picture of the state of both in vitro technology with its health
hazards, its low probability of success, and its health effects on
children and mothers. All that will be dramatically contrasted with
natural methods that have no side effects, almost no cost, and a
success rate that is 300-400% greater than in vitro. The cultural
ramifications of separating the conception of children from the martial
act will also be revealed in light of the Church's teachings on
marriage and the dignity of each human being. (This is from a post I found particularly interesting given my love for large families. In this post Dr. Williams contrasts the two high profile large families featured on the Discovery channel, the Duggars and the Gosslins. Quite insightful.)
Be sure to visit the website and blog, you will find much food for thought. Please spread the word and pray for the project!
We had portraits done for our St. Augustine's homeschool directory this morning. We didn't buy any since the family will be expanding in a few months. (Right now, I'm the only thing expanding.) On the way home I recalled my resolve to take more couple pictures. I think we haven't taken any pregnant couple pictures since our first! So we stayed dressed up and had the kids take some shots of us. I'm glad we did, pregnancy is such a precious time and, in spite of how slow it seems when your feeling uncomfortable, it really goes by swiftly.
With all my school planning, I don't want to forget the most important person in our family. It's easy for moms to get caught up in the needs of the children and forget that they are wives.
In fifteen years of marriage Kevin has put up with my wild ideas like homeschooling, medicinal herbs, grinding wheat etc. For fifteen years that man has gotten up early in the morning and gone to a job where he works hard and rarely has any money to spend on himself to show for it. He leads the family in prayers at night, even when he is ready to drop from exhaustion.
We're not getting any younger or richer, and time alone, any time soon, isn't looking promising. So I am recommitting to being a good help mate to him. Smiling more, being more pleasant, appreciating him and making sure he knows it. Kevin deserves so much more of me than there is to give. At least in
the little things, I can strive to please him and make his life more
Last night he was showing me a website of old computers. He was pointing out the ones he learned to program on back in the dark ages. Now, I can't actually say I didn't tease him and call him a geek, and I can't actually say the computers were interesting to me... but it was truly enjoyable to share in something that was important to him and part of his past.
Marriage is our first vocation. The children are a part of that, but the marriage is first.
Fifteen years ago Kevin and I began our adventure as husband and wife. With each passing year we grow in our love and are grateful for this blessing of married life.
We have had many baby years, and while we hope they are not over, we are happily looking forward to growing old together. This photo clearly illustrates that I may have gained a pound or two since we got married, and Kevin had more hair then, but - who cares?! Getting old together sounds wonderful!
We have learned to find the humor in life! Surely nothing provides more opportunity for humor than children! (Though goofy groomsmen are a close second.)
We have learned that we can face anything together as long as we first turn to our Lord for our strength, hope and guidance.